fix: [cherry-pick] selfhealattemptscount needs to be reset at times (#22095, #20978)

[Aaron-9900]

Cherry picks: #20978 and #22095

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[blakepettersson]

LGTM

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Codecov Report

Attention: Patch coverage is 72.22222% with 5 lines in your changes missing coverage. Please review.

Project coverage is 55.29%. Comparing base (38985bd) to head (bf976cc).
Report is 34 commits behind head on release-2.14.

Files with missing lines	Patch %	Lines
controller/appcontroller.go	72.22%	4 Missing and 1 partial ⚠️

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