perf: parallelize side effects optimization

[ahabhgk]

Summary

Refactor our implementation to more parallel friendly and incremental friendly, and parallelize it as much as possible.

Time cost on side effects optimization:

• internal project (FS): 180ms -> 63ms
• arco-pro: 3.5ms -> 1.9ms
• 20000 modules: 2.9ms -> 2.9ms (basically no change since there are no connections are optimizable in this case)

Checklist

• Tests updated (or not required).
• Documentation updated (or not required).

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[codspeed-hq]

CodSpeed Performance Report

Merging #8781 will not alter performance

_{Comparing ahabhgk:par-side-effects (6bf5d4d) with main (22f3bb0)}

Summary

✅ 1 untouched benchmarks

[ahabhgk]

!bench