Add CUDA 13.1 support

[bdice]

Summary

• Update cuda_curr_max_rapids to CUDA 13.1 in matrix.yml
• Add cuda13.1-conda and cuda13.1-pip devcontainer configurations
• Update build-all-rapids-repos.yml to use CUDA 13.1

Part of rapidsai/build-planning#236

Dependencies

This depends on all RAPIDS libraries having CUDA 13.1 in their dependencies.yaml.

[jameslamb]

cuVS build errors here should hopefully be fixed by rapidsai/cuvs#1686

CMake Error in CMakeLists.txt:
  export called with target "cuvs_static" which requires target "CUTLASS"
  that is not in any export set.

(build link)

[jameslamb]

tests/CMakeFiles/MG_PER_V_TRANSFORM_REDUCE_DST_KEY_AGGREGATED_OUTGOING_E_TEST.dir/prims/mg_per_v_transform_reduce_dst_key_aggregated_outgoing_e.cu.o
In file included from /home/coder/cugraph/cpp/src/prims/per_v_transform_reduce_dst_key_aggregated_outgoing_e.cuh:7,
                 from /home/coder/cugraph/cpp/tests/prims/mg_per_v_transform_reduce_dst_key_aggregated_outgoing_e.cu:6:
/home/coder/cugraph/cpp/src/detail/graph_partition_utils.cuh:18:10: fatal error: cuco/hash_functions.cuh: No such file or directory
   18 | #include <cuco/hash_functions.cuh>
      |          ^~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
compilation terminated.
ninja: build stopped: subcommand failed.

(build link)

cuGraph tests need to explicitly declare their cuco linkage now that they're not getting it transitively from RAFT anymore (rapidsai/raft#2916).

I'm working on that here: rapidsai/cugraph#5383 (comment)

[bdice]

Discussed with @jameslamb -- we're ready to merge this, and he's handling the cuGraph breakage in that repo.