[BREAKING CHANGE] upgrade x/tools to 0.13.0

[tyler-french]

This PR introduces the breaking changes of upgrading x/tools to 0.13.0

Downstream users who are not able to upgrade will need to apply the following patch: x_tools_old.patch

Related comment: #3640 (comment)

Resolves #3640

1. This PR needs to be merged.
2. We need to release prepare release 0.42.0 #3697 0.42.0
3. Then, we need to upgrade x/tools and rules_go simultaneously in https://github.com/bazelbuild/bazel-gazelle
4. Then, we need to release a new version of Gazelle.

We will need to send out communication that downstream users will need to upgrade all 3 simultaneously, or patch rules_go with x_tools_old.patch

[sluongng]

Including the patch into the repo might be a brilliant move. We could add into the release note an instruction on how to consume the patch in some scenarios.

[tyler-french]

Including the patch into the repo might be a brilliant move. We could add into the release note an instruction on how to consume the patch in some scenarios.

Great idea. I haven't had a chance to get back and fix the builds, but we should probably at least include the patch download link with the release

[hawkingrei]

In fact, x/tools is important for the linter such as golangci-linter. We haven't updated to the latest version of the linter for a long time, and we are also unable to update to the latest version of grpc.