fix(ssr): skip optional peer dep resolve

[bluwy]

Description

fix #10255

Skip optional peer dep resolve when running the vite resolver through hookNodeResolve.

From the issue, technically it's impossible to have the optional peer dep resolved via hookNodeResolve, but there is a race condition that makes this happen that I can't minimize as a test case.

Additional context

I can't seem to replicate the test locally, so no tests added, but it is consistently reproducible with the issue repro.

I think we should remove hookNodeResolve in Vite 4. It has caused a lot of inconsistencies and bugs with features only working in CJS (which we're phasing out). I can try to attempt this in another PR.

I'd also like to backport this to v3

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