Support toggling item visibility on touch screens

[emilk]

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You can now click the "hover" buttons on list items on touch screens, by first selecting the item, which will now make the buttons appear.

I also did a few other improvements.

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[emilk]

Tested on iPhone, and works

[Wumpf]

nice, I think that's also strictly an improvement for non-touchscreens (: