[DEVCONTAINER] fix grpc install

[dbarker]

Follow up fix to PR #3270

Changes

• fixes typo in args to the setup_grpc.sh script in DockerFile.dev
• adds check for the arg in setup_grpc.sh
• adds cmake flag to the install scripts for abseil, protobuf, and grpc to require the cxx standard requested and not allow cxx extensions
• remove unused plugins from the grpc build

For significant contributions please make sure you have completed the following items:

• CHANGELOG.md updated for non-trivial changes
• Unit tests have been added
• Changes in public API reviewed

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[ThomsonTan]

Are the plug-ins default on? Or need set CPP plug-in as ON?

[dbarker]

Yeah all are on by default except the OTEL plugin. I'll push a commit to explicitly set the cpp plugin on to be consistent.

[marcalff]

LGTM