fix: detect tmux-launched Codex harness for lock

[curtis-arch]

Summary

• add a tmux-pane descendant fallback for own harness detection when Codex runs below a stable pane shell
• make fm-lock use the same fallback so it records the harness PID, not a transient shell
• prefer TMUX_PANE-targeted tmux lookup before falling back to bare display-message

Validation

• bash -n bin/fm-harness.sh bin/fm-lock.sh
• bash -n bin/*.sh
• shellcheck bin/fm-harness.sh bin/fm-lock.sh
• bin/fm-harness.sh -> codex
• bin/fm-harness.sh crew -> codex
• bin/fm-lock.sh status -> lock held by live harness pid 73908
• bin/fm-lock.sh -> lock acquired: harness pid 73908
• tmux targeted check: TMUX_PANE resolved to firstmate:fm-fix-codex-lock-tmux-a1 %2 73600 while bare display-message resolved to firstmate:codex-aarch64-a %1 67810
• codex doctor --summary -> 16 ok, 1 idle, 1 warning: threads rollout files are missing from the state DB
• git status --short --branch --untracked-files=all -> clean on fix-codex-tmux-harness-lock

Gate notes

• no-mistakes v1.31.2 is installed and doctor passes, but no-mistakes axi run failed before creating a run with: no run started for fix-codex-tmux-harness-lock: no previous run for branch fix-codex-tmux-harness-lock
• no-mistakes rerun also failed with: no previous run for branch fix-codex-tmux-harness-lock
• full tests/*.test.sh loop was attempted manually and failed outside this scope in bin/fm-brief.sh: unexpected EOF while looking for matching apostrophe during the brief scaffold test; this matches the existing open fm-brief scaffold bug

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sorry for the noise. agent opened this before i could catch it

[curtis-arch]

Closing at maintainer request; this branch should not have been published.