chore: added early node 18 support

[kirrg001]

Problems:

• some packages do not install with v18 (yet and maybe will never)
• the usage of "optionalDependencies" does not work (right now) and might not long term, because these dependencies are marked as "prod" dependencies. That means npm audit is failing right now.
• looks like npm 8.6 behaves a bit different
  • is more accurate about peer dependency errors (not a warning anymore)
    • that's why we had to tweak two dependencies (knex and proto loader), otherwise it won't install deps with Node 18
  • looks like npm 8.6 no longer compatible with lerna, because "chai" is installed on the root and "chai-spices" in otel packages needs the package. But NPM throws an error when running "npm ci" that packages are missing the lock file
• some of our dependencies do not officially support Node 18 yet

Decisions:

• we keep Node v18 as optional for now

Tasks

• why is pino-v7 not available again? (looks like NPM 6.14.15 has a bug)
• discuss: run 10 & 12 as side jobs and increase parallels: not part of this PR
• document pre build binary process
• fix tests
• build native 108 abi

[kirrg001]

Looks like image is not available yet.

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[kirrg001]

cimg/node:18.0 now available 👍

[kirrg001]

pm WARN EBADENGINE Unsupported engine {
npm WARN EBADENGINE   package: '@apollo/[email protected]',
npm WARN EBADENGINE   required: { node: '>=12.13.0 <17.0' },
npm WARN EBADENGINE   current: { node: 'v18.0.0', npm: '8.6.0' }
npm WARN EBADENGINE }
npm WARN EBADENGINE Unsupported engine {
npm WARN EBADENGINE   package: '@apollo/[email protected]',
npm WARN EBADENGINE   required: { node: '>=12.13.0 <17.0' },
npm WARN EBADENGINE   current: { node: 'v18.0.0', npm: '8.6.0' }
npm WARN EBADENGINE }
npm WARN EBADENGINE Unsupported engine {
npm WARN EBADENGINE   package: '@apollo/[email protected]',
npm WARN EBADENGINE   required: { node: '>=12.13.0 <17.0' },
npm WARN EBADENGINE   current: { node: 'v18.0.0', npm: '8.6.0' }
npm WARN EBADENGINE }
npm WARN EBADENGINE Unsupported engine {
npm WARN EBADENGINE   package: '@apollo/[email protected]',
npm WARN EBADENGINE   required: { node: '>=12.13.0 <17.0' },
npm WARN EBADENGINE   current: { node: 'v18.0.0', npm: '8.6.0' }
npm WARN EBADENGINE }
npm WARN EBADENGINE Unsupported engine {
npm WARN EBADENGINE   package: '@apollo/[email protected]',
npm WARN EBADENGINE   required: { node: '>=12.13.0 <17.0' },
npm WARN EBADENGINE   current: { node: 'v18.0.0', npm: '8.6.0' }
npm WARN EBADENGINE }
npm WARN EBADENGINE Unsupported engine {
npm WARN EBADENGINE   package: '@apollo/[email protected]',
npm WARN EBADENGINE   required: { node: '>=12.13.0 <17.0' },
npm WARN EBADENGINE   current: { node: 'v18.0.0', npm: '8.6.0' }
npm WARN EBADENGINE }

[kirrg001]

There are a couple of dependencies, which do not install with Node 18:
grpc, node-rdkafka, pg-native, mali

We need to install them as optional and skip the tests on Node 18 for now and wait for releases.
I can imagine that some such as grpc will never support Node 18, because the module is deprecated.

We want to install them as optional dev dependency.
Otherwise e.g. older packages like grpc (and more) will throw audit errors

[basti1302]

Great stuff!