Backport of [NET-8938] feat: Add startup-grace-period-seconds and graceful-startup-path into release/1.3.x

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Changes proposed in this PR

• Support for consul-dataplane startup-grace-period-seconds and graceful-startup-path arguments.

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Checklist

• Tests added
• CHANGELOG entry added

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