fix(gateway): wait for launchd restart readiness in-band (#56524)

[hashbender]

What does this PR do?

Fixes the macOS launchd in-band restart/update path so Hermes does not report success before a fresh gateway process is actually runtime-ready.

The old self-restart path returned immediately after sending SIGUSR1, which let hermes update / hermes gateway restart complete while the old gateway was still draining and before launchd had confirmed a healthy replacement. In the gateway-hosted terminal path, that also left fallback launchctl kickstart -k vulnerable to being killed with the old gateway process group.

This PR waits for the old PID to exit, waits for a fresh launchd-managed PID to reach gateway_state=running, and uses a detached watcher plus a shared launchd recovery helper so forced fallback survives in-band teardown.

Related Issue

Fixes NousResearch#56524

Type of Change

• 🐛 Bug fix (non-breaking change that fixes an issue)
• ✨ New feature (non-breaking change that adds functionality)
• 🔒 Security fix
• 📝 Documentation update
• ✅ Tests (adding or improving test coverage)
• ♻️ Refactor (no behavior change)
• 🎯 New skill (bundled or hub)

Changes Made

• hermes_cli/gateway.py
  • add _wait_for_pid_exit() and _wait_for_launchd_service_restart() so launchd restart success means a fresh runtime-ready gateway PID, not just a signal request
  • add a detached launchd restart watcher for in-band self-restart / update flows so fallback restart survives gateway teardown
  • unify launchd kickstart / unloaded-job recovery / detached fallback behind _kickstart_launchd_service_and_wait()
  • route launchd_restart() through the shared recovery path and only clear the unsupported marker after runtime-ready recovery
• tests/hermes_cli/test_gateway_service.py
  • cover graceful self-restart watcher flow
  • cover drain-timeout fallback to launchctl kickstart -k
  • cover fast relaunch with no None PID gap
  • cover readiness timeout log guidance
  • cover unloaded-job recovery waiting for runtime-ready after bootout -> bootstrap -> kickstart

How to Test

1. Reproduce the old behavior on the clean baseline for #56524:
   • self-restart requests return ✓ Service restart requested immediately after SIGUSR1, before launchd runtime-ready confirmation
2. Verify the targeted launchd restart coverage:
   • ./scripts/run_tests.sh tests/hermes_cli/test_gateway_service.py -k 'launchd_restart_drains_running_gateway_before_kickstart or launchd_restart_self_request or wait_for_launchd_service_restart_timeout_reports_logs or launchd_restart_boots_out_stale_registration_before_bootstrap or launchd_restart_falls_back_to_detached_on_error_5'
   • .venv/bin/python -m pytest -q tests/hermes_cli/test_gateway_service.py -k 'launchd_restart_self_request or wait_for_launchd_service_restart_timeout_reports_logs'
3. Verify static checks:
   • ruff check hermes_cli/gateway.py tests/hermes_cli/test_gateway_service.py
   • git diff --check
4. Optional broader check:
   • .venv/bin/python -m pytest -q tests/hermes_cli/test_gateway_service.py
   • On this macOS host it still ends at 182 passed, 6 failed; the 6 failures are the pre-existing user-systemd baseline failures, unrelated to this patch

Checklist

Code

• I've read the Contributing Guide
• My commit messages follow Conventional Commits (fix(scope):, feat(scope):, etc.)
• I searched for existing PRs to make sure this isn't a duplicate
• My PR contains only changes related to this fix/feature (no unrelated commits)
• I've run pytest tests/ -q and all tests pass
• I've added tests for my changes (required for bug fixes, strongly encouraged for features)
• I've tested on my platform: macOS 26.3 / launchd

Documentation & Housekeeping

• I've updated relevant documentation (README, docs/, docstrings) — or N/A
• I've updated cli-config.yaml.example if I added/changed config keys — or N/A
• I've updated CONTRIBUTING.md or AGENTS.md if I changed architecture or workflows — or N/A
• I've considered cross-platform impact (Windows, macOS) per the compatibility guide — or N/A
• I've updated tool descriptions/schemas if I changed tool behavior — or N/A

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Mirror-of: NousResearch#56908
NousResearch#56908