[Security Solution][Lists] More composable hooks/utilities

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Summary

This is a followup to #69603 where things are refactored as follows:

• adds useIsMounted hook that provides a callback to retrieve the mounted state of the component
  • used internally by useAsync to prevent state updates on an unmounted component
• adds useAsync hook that wraps a function and provides:
  • start callback to invoke the function
  • loading state
  • error state
  • result state
• adds withOptionalSignal higher-order function that defaults a function's signal argument to new AbortController().signal
  • this addresses a common use case where a consuming component doesn't need to abort an async call
• replaces use of useAsyncTask with composition of useAsync and withOptionalSignal
  • removes references to the react-use library, which should reduce our plugin's bundle size a bit.

Checklist

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• Unit or functional tests were updated or added to match the most common scenarios

For maintainers

• This was checked for breaking API changes and was labeled appropriately

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[FrankHassanabad]

LGTM!

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