Use CollectionsMarshal.GetValueRefOrAddDefault to optimize adding to dictionaries

[JamesNK]

Description

Made a pass over dashboard code to see where CollectionsMarshal.GetValueRefOrAddDefault could be used. It skips the overhead of trying to find a value and then adding the value if missing.

Checklist

• Is this feature complete?
  • Yes. Ready to ship.
  • No. Follow-up changes expected.
• Are you including unit tests for the changes and scenario tests if relevant?
  • Yes
  • No
• Did you add public API?
  • Yes
    • If yes, did you have an API Review for it?
      • Yes
      • No
    • Did you add <remarks /> and <code /> elements on your triple slash comments?
      • Yes
      • No
  • No
• Does the change make any security assumptions or guarantees?
  • Yes
    • If yes, have you done a threat model and had a security review?
      • Yes
      • No
  • No
• Does the change require an update in our Aspire docs?
  • Yes
    • Link to aspire-docs issue:
  • No

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