refactor(query): record state_offsets to reduce the memory leak of agg

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Summary

1. Record state_offsets to reduce the memory leak of agg
2. Always use jemalloc in hashtable instead of MMAP allocator
3. Use StackHashSet

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Type of change

• Bug Fix (non-breaking change which fixes an issue)
• New Feature (non-breaking change which adds functionality)
• Breaking Change (fix or feature that could cause existing functionality not to work as expected)
• Documentation Update
• Refactoring
• Performance Improvement
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PR Summary

• Memory Allocator Switch
  This update changes our memory management system in various components of our software. By switching from the MmapAllocator to the JEAllocator, we improve how we allocate and manage the memory usage in the system, which can lead to increased performance and efficiency.

• Struct Modification
  We have updated several key components or 'structs' to use the new memory allocator as their default. This means these components should also benefit from the performance improvements.

• Payload Refactoring
  We have made significant changes in a component named payload. This involved renaming state_rows to state_offsets, improving how we manage and check states, and introduced better logging for troubleshooting. These adjustments increase efficiency and provide better system state tracking.