RATIS-1942. GrpcLogAppender has ILLEGAL TRANSITION: STARTING -> STARTING

[adoroszlai]

What changes were proposed in this pull request?

Assign local address to new peers being added to the cluster.

https://issues.apache.org/jira/browse/RATIS-1942

How was this patch tested?

Compared 10x10 runs of TestRetryCacheWithGrpc with and without the patch.

without patch: 13/100 failures, 10/13 failure logs had STARTING -> STARTING:
https://github.com/adoroszlai/ratis/actions/runs/7199041920

$ grep -cr 'STARTING -> STARTING' | sort -g
1/iteration2/ratis-test/org.apache.ratis.grpc.TestRetryCacheWithGrpc-output.txt:1223
2/iteration1/ratis-test/org.apache.ratis.grpc.TestRetryCacheWithGrpc-output.txt:1457
2/iteration3/ratis-test/org.apache.ratis.grpc.TestRetryCacheWithGrpc-output.txt:1284
2/iteration9/ratis-test/org.apache.ratis.grpc.TestRetryCacheWithGrpc-output.txt:1374
3/iteration7/ratis-test/org.apache.ratis.grpc.TestRetryCacheWithGrpc-output.txt:1190
6/iteration10/ratis-test/org.apache.ratis.grpc.TestRetryCacheWithGrpc-output.txt:1215
9/iteration6/ratis-test/org.apache.ratis.grpc.TestRetryCacheWithGrpc-output.txt:1448
9/iteration8/ratis-test/org.apache.ratis.grpc.TestRetryCacheWithGrpc-output.txt:1440
10/iteration1/ratis-test/org.apache.ratis.grpc.TestRetryCacheWithGrpc-output.txt:1507

with patch, no STARTING -> STARTING:
https://github.com/adoroszlai/ratis/actions/runs/7198991194

CI:
https://github.com/adoroszlai/ratis/actions/runs/7198887876

[szetszwo]

+1 the change looks good.

[adoroszlai]

Thanks @szetszwo for review, suggestions on how to change LifeCycle, and merging it.