Rollup merge of #103689 - saethlin:libtest-startup, r=thomcc

Do fewer passes and generally be more efficient when filtering tests

Follow-on of the work I started with this PR: rust-lang/rust#99939

Basically, the startup code for libtest is really inefficient, but that's not usually a problem because it is distributed in release and workloads are small. But under Miri which can be 100x slower than a debug build, these inefficiencies explode.

Most of the diff here is making test filtering single-pass. There are a few other small optimizations as well, but they are more straightforward.

With this PR, the startup time of the `iced` tests with `--features=code_asm,mvex` drops from 17 to 2 minutes (I think Miri has gotten slower under this workload since #99939). The easiest way to try this out is to set `MIRI_LIB_SRC` to a checkout of this branch when running `cargo +nightly miri test --features=code_asm,mvex`.

r? `@thomcc`