Rollup merge of #114418 - klensy:parking_lot, r=oli-obk

bump parking_lot to 0.12

Bumps parking_lot to 0.12, replaces few explicit uses of parking_lot with rustc_data_structures::sync ones.

<strike>cc `@oli-obk` this touches recent https://github.com/rust-lang/rust/pull/114283</strike>
cc `@SparrowLii` i've checked that this builds with parallel-compiler

measureme's bump rust-lang/measureme#209
https://github.com/rust-lang/rust/blob/fcf3006e0133365ecd26894689c086387edcbecb/compiler/rustc_data_structures/src/sync.rs#L18-L34