net: add ability to reset a tcp socket

make it possible to forcibly rest a tcp socket:

* add a new method `Socket.prototype.resetAndDestroy`

* add a new flag `resetAndClosing` to make `_destroy` calls
the `reset` instead of close while destroying a Socket.

* add new methods `TCPWrap::Reset` to be a wrap of `uv_tcp_close_reset`

* change `HandleWrap::state_` from private to protected.
This is essential for keeping the same behaviour between
`TCPWrap::Reset` and `HandleWrap::Close`

Fixes: nodejs#27428

doc/api/net.md

@@ -1099,7 +1099,7 @@ added: REPLACEME
 
 Close the TCP connection by sending an RST packet and destroy the stream.
 If this TCP socket is in connecting status, it will send an RST packet and destroy this TCP socket once it is connected.
-Otherwise, it will call `socket.destroy` this socket with an `ERR_SOCKET_CLOSED` Error.
+Otherwise, it will call `socket.destroy` with an `ERR_SOCKET_CLOSED` Error.
 If this is not a TCP socket (for example, a pipe), calling this method will immediately throw an `ERR_INVALID_HANDLE_TYPE` Error.
 
 ### `socket.resume()`