Glm4moe fix tp+ep+sp

[WYB27]

修复glm4moe tp+ep+sp不能正常训练的问题

已修复：

1. 开sp后的reshape报错问题
2. 开sp后ep内部维度报错问题

todo:
_cal_seq_aux_loss函数，为适配sp维度而临时改动，未验证正确性，当前场景暂不需要计算aux_loss，后续需要时需验证正确性

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paddleformers/transformers/moe_gate.py	0.00%	18 Missing ⚠️
paddleformers/transformers/glm4_moe/modeling.py	0.00%	3 Missing ⚠️

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