Default to arm64 builders for macos wheels and cross compile x86_64 by default #460

Job	Run time
release / Load build targets	5s
release_default / Load build targets	6s
release_sdist_only / Load build targets	0s
release_sdist_only / Build source distribution	0s
release_sdist_only / Build ${{ matrix.target }} wheels	0s
release_sdist_only / Upload	0s
release / Build linux wheels	9m 18s
release / Build source distribution	22s
release / Build cp311-macosx_x86_64 wheels	33s
release / Build cp311-macosx_x86_64 wheels	57s
release / Build cp312-macosx_arm64 wheels	22s
release / Build cp313-macosx_universal2 wheels	32s
release / Build cp3?-win_amd64 wheels	3m 44s
release / Build cp312-manylinux_aarch64 wheels	1m 55s
release / Build cp313-manylinux_x86_64 wheels	44s
release / Build cp311-manylinux_ppc64le wheels	1m 46s
release_default / Build source distribution	17s
release_default / Build linux wheels	9m 7s
release_default / Build macos wheels	4m 45s
release_default / Build windows wheels	13m 19s
release / Upload	0s
release_default / Upload	0s
	47m 52s

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