fix: track background task references in GatewayRunner

[memosr]

GatewayRunner created asyncio tasks without storing references, allowing Python's garbage collector to silently cancel them mid-execution.

• Add self._background_tasks: set to init
• Store /background command task with add_done_callback cleanup
• Store session-reset memory flush task with cleanup
• Store session-resume memory flush task with cleanup
• Cancel all pending background tasks in stop()

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[teknium1]

Merged via PR #3254. Your task tracking fix was cherry-picked onto current main with authorship preserved. The unrelated deletion of the DM topic auto-skill loading code was excluded from the salvage. Thanks for the contribution!