Sort out tooling team member list and maintainer

[joesepi]

https://github.com/orgs/nodejs/teams/tooling/members

Darcy and I could be added to the team. @boneskull is the only maintainer, perhaps that should be updated as well.

[joesepi]

@bnb @mhdawson can you make @bcoe, @ruyadorno, @iansu and me (@joesepi) maintainers of the @nodejs/tooling list? Thank you!!

[mhdawson]

@joesepi done.

[bnb]

If this is done, going to close. Feel free to reopen if there's something still missing.