Consolidate LifecycleParticipant code pattern

[rkargMsft]

SiloMetadataCache has the desired pattern to be used. DistributedGrainDirectory and other Lifecycle Participants should be consolidated to this new pattern.

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https://github.com/dotnet/orleans/pull/9271/files/3c8a9626f073e5747dd35e40e17664a4874d9725..005d8c6413ac2c72ded4b8784490ac1a45351f7d#r1972312979

rkargMsft 50 minutes ago
This previous code was copied from DistributedGrainDirectory. Should there be a follow up issue to update usages of the prior pattern with this one?>
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@ReubenBond ReubenBond 43 minutes ago
Yes, we should clean up the other instances.